I’ve heard this so many times and it makes me shake my head and laugh.
It goes something like this:
Girl and guy have sex. It takes 15 minutes total with her giving him a blow job, and then the guy cums. She doesn’t. Yet she cum’s all the time on her own and it usually takes only 3 minutes for her to get there by herself.
She’s honest and tells him this. His response: ”You don’t cum with me because you cum too much on your own.”
Wrong. Wrong wrong wrong. (Wrong) And here are the top reasons why this bothers me.
Reason 1: Most women don’t have a more difficult time cumming the more often they cum. Its actually has always seemed to me to be the opposite:
The more a women cums, the easier it is for her to cum. Seriously.
Reason 2: When your on your own, you start by stimulating your brain first most likely. You think of things that turn you on, or you read those things, or you perv on tumblr. :P THEN it takes you three minutes. Mostly you get conditioned to cum quickly on your own because you teach yourself how to arouse your own mind.
The time it takes you to cum, roughly, is (Mental Arousal Time+ Physical Arousal Time) = Time to Orgasm.
Interestingly I’ve found it much easier to skip the Physical Arousal and get to orgasm than it is to skip the Mental Arousal. The cool think is that using anticipation you and start mental arousal before your even physically with someone by using anticipation. Its a cool little tool. Learn to use it.
Reason 3: Seriously? The girl you like having sex with just opened herself up to you, disclosed to you how much she likes sex, and told you exactly how long it takes her to cum alone, and your response is “You do that too much?”
Put your fucking ego aside.
This offers so much opportunity and feels like common sense to me that it even boggles my mind that guys don’t think of what to do on their own. Why wouldn’t you ask her to show you? Why wouldn’t you want her messaging you each time she came on her own? Why wouldn’t you want to give her things to think about while she does? Have her do it in the car on the way over, or if she uses porn to do it, look at the porn with her.
Just ramming your cock into a vagina for 5 minutes doesn’t magically cause orgasms. Don’t get me wrong, I personally love ramming my cock into a nice vagina, but only once its nice and wet/I can hear her panting from desire/we’re in the parking lot of a very nice restaurant where we’ve been mentally fucking for the past hour and a half and the actual physical contact is simply the culmination of all that teasing.